Things I’ll teach my children (via infl4ted)
The voracious ambition of humans is never sated by dreams coming true, because there is always the thought that everything might be done better and again.
The Fault in Our Stars by John Green (via stamos)
I think I posted this same quote when I was reading it.
“People waste way too much energy taking things personally. That Facebook post is probably not about you. It was probably an accident that you weren’t tagged in that picture. And the person you’re dating is probably acting sad because that’s how they respond to setbacks at work, not because of anything you did.”
Filing this under “Lessons I Still Need To Learn”
This lady gets it.
We are the girls with anxiety disorders, filled appointment books, five-year plans. We take ourselves very, very seriously. We are the peacemakers, the do-gooders, the givers, the savers. We are on time, overly prepared, well read, and witty, intellectually curious, always moving. We pride ourselves on getting as little sleep as possible and thrive on self-deprivation. We drink coffee, a lot of it. We are on birth control, Prozac, and multivitamins. We are relentless, judgmental with ourselves, and forgiving to others. We never want to be as passive-aggressive as our mothers, never want to marry men as uninspired as our fathers. We are the daughters of the feminists who said, “You can be anything”, and we heard, “You have to be everything.”
When you find yourself drowning in self-hate, you have to remind yourself that you weren’t born feeling this way. That at some point in your journey, some person or experience sent you the message that there was something wrong with who you are, and you internalized those messages and took them on as your truth. But that hate isn’t yours to carry, and those judgments aren’t about you. And in the same way that you learned to think badly of yourself, you can learn to think new, self-loving and accepting thoughts. You can learn to challenge those beliefs, take away their power, and reclaim your own. It won’t be easy, and it won’t happen over night. But it is possible. And it starts when you decide that there has to be more to life than this pain you feel. It starts when you decide that you deserve to discover it.
People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.
The more Odysseus languished, the more he forgot. For nostalgia does not heighten memory’s activity, it does not awaken recollection; it suffices unto itself, unto its own feelings, so fully absorbed is it by its suffering and nothing else.
So, when people start saying “maybe you’re not doing the right thing” or “that’s an unrealistic goal” or whatever. maybe you have to take it on like, ”alright you’re saying that because maybe it is an unrealistic goal but i’m willing to gamble my time, the next couple of years of my life and my effort doing it” but I tell you what, the more somebody tells you this is an unrealistic goal, if you really want it, it probably means you have to work even harder to get it.